Help & Support
How to Help Someone Who is Being Abused
Contact numbers for help are listed below
- Listen and don't judge the victim or abuser. Take the report seriously no matter how important or powerful the abuser is.
- Show that you care and pray with them. Presenting their case, ask God for help and wisdom for them to make the right decision. Believe He has heard you and claim His promises to defend and save the oppressed. Thank God for hearing and answering.
- Find as many options of help in the community that you can.
- Look for a Domestic Violence service.
- Present the options to them, and help by listening as they explore them.
- Pray with them as they consider them, asking God for guidance.
- Encourage them to tell a doctor so that any injuries can be documented.
- Remind them that domestic violence is a serious crime and the police and courts can provide help in these situations.
- It will be a very difficult and dangerous time for them - so continue to listen and indicate that you understand them. They will be fearful. Claim God's peace, protection and freedom from fear.
- Whatever decision they make, whether to stay or leave, support them non-judgementally. Only they fully know the danger of their situation. Be careful to keep confidentiality.
- Consider the rights and needs of children separately.
- God's word condemns violence in personal relationships.
(Gen 6:11-13; Ps 11:5; Isa 58:4,5; Rom 13:10; Gal 5:19-21)
- It is the spirit of Christ to love and accept, to affirm and build others up rather than to abuse or demean them.
(Rom 12:10; 14:19; Eph 4:26; 5:28,29; Col 3: 8-14; 1 Thes 5:11)
- There is no room among Christ's followers for tyrannical control and abuse of power.
(Matt 20:25-28; Eph 6:4)
God has given us examples in the Bible so there may be no mistake about what He thinks.
- When the earth became "filled with violence" and everyone's possible thoughts were only evil on a continual basis, God was sorry He had made man, "it grieved him at his heart." They chose not to believe His offer of salvation and all but eight drowned.
- The sexual violence of the people of Sodom and Gomorrah (" their sin is very grievous,") brought about their destruction.
- The Egyptian's brutal slavery of God's people and refusal to recognise the inalienable rights that God has given, ultimately led to the plagues and their drowning in the Red Sea.
- When the tribe of Benjamin harboured abusive rapists who brutally gang raped a man's wife to death, God told Israel to destroy the tribe of Benjamin. Israel swore not to allow their daughters to marry the 600 men that were alive.
The gospel is God's rehabilitation program for sinners/abusers and the Church is to be a refuge for victims.
What does the Bible Recommend?
- An overlooked principle is, "Wives submit yourselves unto your husbands as it is fit in the Lord." (Eph. 5:22) and Children, obey your parents in the Lord for this is right." (Eph 6:1). Wives and children are to obey husbands and parents within the parameters of God's will.
- As the Israelite slaves demonstrated, if we are being controlled or abused by someone, we may be unable to render free loving service to God. To strive and seek for freedom is a desire God puts in our hearts. For "where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty" (2 Cor. 3:17). When the Israelite slaves cried to God, recognising His ownership of them above their slave masters, God heard, came down and freed them.
- There is a moral aspect to marriage, but also a civil aspect. Abuse is incivility and earthly governments usually protect people from incivility. (Romans 13:3,4)
Citizens Advice Bureau
Domestic Violence Centre [Auckland]
Rape Crisis [Auckland]
Visit http://hotpeachpages.net/auspac/pacific.html to find a list of domestic violence and abuse agencies list for Papua New Guinea, Solomon Islands, Tonga, Samoa, Vanuatu and more.
Fiji Women's Crisis Centre - http://www.fijiwomen.com/
Domestic Violence Crisis Service
24 hour information, support, referral, and counselling service for individuals in crisis affected by domestic violence.
Telephone (02) 6280 0900
Domestic Violence and Protection Order Unit (Legal Aid)
Phone: (02) 6217 4299
Victim Services Scheme
Phone: 1800 822 272
By email: firstname.lastname@example.org
VOCAL (ACT) Inc - 02 6295 9600
Canberra Rape Crisis - 02 6247 2525
Domestic Violence Crisis Service - 02 6280 0900
Kids Help Line - 1800 551 800
Lifeline - 13 11 14
Police Attendance Line - 11 444
Support groups for survivors of domestic violence
|The Alternatives to Violence Project||An experiential workshop covering relating to others, choices, affirmation and problem solving.||.||
$40 non waged
|Domestic Violence Support Group||Explore the effects of DV on you and your children and help you develop personal skills towards a positive future||Civic
An 8 week group is run each school term
|Gold coin donation
assistance with childcare may be available.
Ph: 6205 1076
|Domestic Violence Support Group||A program for women affected by violence||Queanbeyan Community Health||$10||
|Regaining your Parenting Role After Domestic Violence||A course for women to assist in:
effects of domestic violence, parenting strategies, moving beyond.
Marymead, Goyder St Narrabundah
|Self Esteem for women who have been affected by violence||A six week program focusing on teaching skills to rebuild self-esteem damaged by abuse.||.||No cost||Women's Health Service
Ph: 6205 1078
Crisis Line Chat: 1800 332 333
Crisis Line : 1800 019 116
N.T Women's Info Net: 1800 813 631
Domestic Violence Counsellor
|Darwin||(08) 8945 6200|
|Alice Springs||(08) 8952 6048|
|Nhulunbuy||(08) 8987 0428|
|Katherine||(08) 8972 1733|
|Tennant Creek||(08) 8962 1011|
DOCS Domestic Violence Crisis Line - 1800 65 64 63 - crisis counselling and information referral service. Open 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
Court Support Scheme
Level 1, 2 Holt Street, Stanmore 2048
Tel (02) 9564 2722
Fax (02) 9564 1643
Domestic Violence Advocacy Service
Telephone advice line (02) 9637 3741 or 1800 810 784 TTY 1800 626 267
Fax (02) 9682 3844
Family Support Services Association of NSW
Link: services offered
NSW Government -victim support
Hastings Community Services Directory
Domestic violence telephone service
DV Connect Womens Line - 1800 811 811
Offers 24 hour counselling and refuge placements. www.dvconnect.org
TTY: 1800 812 225
Immigrant Women's Support Service
Women from non-English speaking backgrounds can access the Immigrant Women's Support Service.
Ttelephone: (07) 3846 3490
Men's Info Line
The Men's Info Line provides advice on relationships, health and family and domestic violence.
Freecall 1800 600 636.
Brisbane and Queensland wide: 1800 177 577
Telephone Typewriter Service (TTY): 1800 677 577
Townsville: 1800 650 451
Sunshine Coast (Nambour): 1800 243 201
Freecall Fax: 1800 656 122
Women's Infolink Centres:
Brisbane, 56 Mary Street, City
Sunshine Coast (Nambour), 91-95 Howard St, Nambour
Townsville, Ground Floor, State Government Building, Cnr Walker and Stanley Streets
Postal address: PO Box 185, Albert Street Brisbane, Qld 4002
07 3224 3246; Fax: 07 3221 3485
Centacare has offices throughout Queensland.
Contact Women's Infolink for regional numbers.
Lifeline (24 hrs)
Queensland wide 13 11 14
Rural & Remote only 1800 176 002
Brisbane 07 3217 2900
Relationship Australia has more offices throughout Queensland.
Contact Women's Infolink for regional numbers.
Website: www.relationships.com.au (non-Government website)
Legal Aid Call Centre
1300 651 188; Fax: 07 3238 3014
Women's Legal Service - Brisbane
Freecall: 1800 677 278
Telephone: 07 3392 0670
|Domestic Violence Helpline||1800 800 098|
|Domestic Violence Crisis Service||08 82232200|
|Crisis Care||13 16 11|
|Central Eastern Domestic Violence Service||08 8365 5033|
|Mission Australia||08 8326 1777|
|South Australia Domestic Violence Unit||08 8331 1103|
|Eyre Peninsula Women and Children's Support Centre||08 8683 0311|
Domestic Violence Crisis Service - 1800 633 937
Long-Term Support For Women
S.H.E- Support for Women in and from domestic violence
Phone: 6278 9090 or 6278 9091
Survivors 6334 0305
Huon Domestic Violence Information Service - 6297 1754
|Women's Domestic Violence Crisis Service||1800 015 188 or 03 9373 0123|
|Men's Referral Services||(03) 9428 2899 or 1800 065 973|
|Amaroo Neighbourhood Centre, Chadstone||03 98072625|
|Brimbank Community Centre, Deer Park||03 93631811|
|Children's Resource Project, Ringwood||03 9879 5344|
|Emma House DV Service, Warnambool||03 5561 1934|
|Eastern DV Service, Heathmont||03 9870 5939|
|Mallee DV Service, Mildura||03 5021 2130|
|Southern family Life, Sandringham||03 9598 2133|
|Police (emergency only)||000|
|Your nearest police station||13 14 44|
|Crisis Care Unit||(08) 9223 1111 or 1800 199 008|
|Family Helpline||(08) 9223 1100 or 1800 643 000|
|Kids Helpline||1800 55 1800|
|Centrecare||(08) 9325 6644|
|Kinway Working Relationships||(08) 9321 5801|
|Relationships Australia (WA)||(08) 9470 5109|
|Domestic Violence Legal Unit||(08) 9261 6254 or
(08) 9261 6230
|Legal Aid||1300 650 579|
|Women's Legal Services Assistance Line||(08) 9221 5122|
|Centrelink (rent assistance)||13 13 05|
|Centrelink (family assistance)||13 61 50|
|Crisis Care Unit - General support and assistance||9223 1111 or outside the metropolitan area: 1800 199 008.|
|Domestic Violence Children's Counselling Service||9307 7719|